Being of Service

 Many of us are natural "Givers". In fact, most people are or would like to be "Givers". It can be most exhilarating and bring great joy to both the "Giver" and the "Recipient". The difference is how we go about it. So many will give materially and emotionally to the point where they find themselves to be empty. Being of service is not about endless giving. It is about balance! To truly be of service you must be Whole in you own right, so you actually have something to give. This is often easier "said" than "done".

The "Giver" must learn to occasionally focus on themselves and their own needs without feeling guilty about it. The "Giver" often feels they are being selfish if they focus on themselves and have a very hard time doing so. The "Giver" does not know how to "receive" graciously. It throw them off ! Ultimately, you cannot give anything out of an empty basket. If you truly are to Be of Service it is your responsibility/obligation to be good to yourself and have your own needs met so you have something to give.



Rules for the "Being of Service"

1)     Have something to Give!

        Your own needs are met, your cup runneth over, and you can give in Joy!

2)     Give from your Heart without any expectation of return.

         When you "help" another you may not receive the same in return from that individual, but by        helping them you are removing weeds from their garden and allowing them to blossom and fulfill their purpose. Consequently, helping all those they interact with!

3)     Learn how to Receive.

         In the ebb and flow of Life, there may be times when you need to receive. Do so graciously and and with gratitude!

4)     Maintain Balance!

         Check in with your Self every so often to ensure you are healthy and in Balance

Skills for "Being of Service

1)       Listen

           Always the most important skill. When you listen to someone and allow yourself to be a                            sounding  board they will often come up with their own answers. You helped just by being there!

2)        Offer Support and Guidance

           When asked, you can offer support and guidance, but do not fall into the trap that your are All   Knowing, because you are not. You may have determined what is helpful for you, but it may not work the same for someone else. Simply " Share"  what you have learned for yourself !
           

3)        Do Not Preach

           " DANGER, DANGER, Will Robinson!" In our effort to help we may be convinced we know  what will help someone else. We may even be correct, but can come off as being critical and produce a great deal of Negativity. Negativity is not helpful. Always come from a Positive place and feed the Positive!

Just Be there, and do what you can with Love!